I just read somewhere that Chef Wan's son is getting hitch. But that is not what I want to blog about. Apparently, his son is getting married to someone who was married before, a divorcee. But I like the way Chef Wan (the father of the groom) commented on the issue. He said other people has no right to judge his son's girlfriend just because she had a failed marriage before. He is more interested in her inner beauty rather than her divorcee status and that his son's happiness is what matters most. Not all fathers or parents are as open minded as Chef Wan.
Our society, in general (not all of course) has a stigma about divorcee. They jump when they know that their kids are marrying one. It is as if being a divorcee you need to change the color of your IC or something like that, because you are now in a different group of people - the people who experienced failure in marriage. When there is a marriage wreck, and the third person happens to be a divorcee, some people are going to harp on the fact that the person causing the marriage trouble is that divorcee. I personally feel that is unfair. I personally feel that judging a divorcee without knowing what the real issues are.... is mean, unacceptable, shallow, unwise and judgmental.
I come from a divorced family. My parents divorced and that automatically made my mother a divorcee. Some of my aunts are divorced. Some of my friends are divorced after less than 10 years of marriage. They too are divorcee. They just happened to have failed marriages, that's all. Marriages could fail, under extreme circumstances. I know no one wants a marriage failure, but it could fail. Just accept that possibility.
So, what is it about being a divorcee to have a stigma about? What is it about being a divorcee to even question about? Unless we are insecure. Are we? I'm not. Because I know if one day my marriage fails, I will be one too. No exception.
Signing off - nmn
Friday, 30 September 2011
Giving is the way to go
Alhamdulillah. The month of Syawal ended 2 days ago. Yesterday marked the beginning of Zulkaedah in the Muslim calender. Time flies. First was the beginning of Ramadhan, then the Raya began, now it is another month.
My Raya was so-so. I am never really big on Raya. Except for one or two, maybe three open houses, a few visiting, the rests are mostly nothing. Well, it does not make me less of a Malay if I decided not to Raya like mad, right.
But my Ramadhan was fun. Apart from being able to fast 25 days (of of 29 days), the berbuka puasa event we had with anak yatim was somewhat memorable. Not to be sympathetic, but seeing them (as orphans at a very young age) somehow made me realize that not everyone in this world is as fortunate as some of us are. We complain about not having enough money, not getting the promotion that we want, not driving a better car, not been buying new Gucci handbag for more than a year, not this, not that.... but we sometimes forget that there are people out there who are wishing and praying for something more, something more meaningful.... they wish they still have their parents. Well, the kids looked happy to see us there, but I know deep inside it breaks their heart to see us with our parents, and our kids with us.
I felt good to be the one who's giving rather than being at the receiving end. Being a normal human being, I love receiving. Gifts, money, praises, goods and the list won't end. But I personally feel that giving is what makes you a better person, makes you have a better heart and makes you change a situation. And giving, does not necessarily be in monetary. It could comes in many other forms. I just need to find it.
I pray that Allah continues granting me with this rezeki, with this good health, with this happiness, because with all that I pray that I could continue giving.
I need to stop here though there're a lot more that I want to blog about. But it is already 6.30 am. I need to get ready to go to work + get my boy ready to go to kindi. Until then, Assalamualaikum. I hope the people that I know, the people that I love will have a great day.
Oh yes, one of the bosses in my office is buying us breakfast today. To Peer, thank you. Semoga Allah murahkan rezeki and grant happiness in your life dunia and akhirat. I know a lot of people are wishing you for the same thing.
Signing off - nmn
My Raya was so-so. I am never really big on Raya. Except for one or two, maybe three open houses, a few visiting, the rests are mostly nothing. Well, it does not make me less of a Malay if I decided not to Raya like mad, right.
But my Ramadhan was fun. Apart from being able to fast 25 days (of of 29 days), the berbuka puasa event we had with anak yatim was somewhat memorable. Not to be sympathetic, but seeing them (as orphans at a very young age) somehow made me realize that not everyone in this world is as fortunate as some of us are. We complain about not having enough money, not getting the promotion that we want, not driving a better car, not been buying new Gucci handbag for more than a year, not this, not that.... but we sometimes forget that there are people out there who are wishing and praying for something more, something more meaningful.... they wish they still have their parents. Well, the kids looked happy to see us there, but I know deep inside it breaks their heart to see us with our parents, and our kids with us.
I felt good to be the one who's giving rather than being at the receiving end. Being a normal human being, I love receiving. Gifts, money, praises, goods and the list won't end. But I personally feel that giving is what makes you a better person, makes you have a better heart and makes you change a situation. And giving, does not necessarily be in monetary. It could comes in many other forms. I just need to find it.
I pray that Allah continues granting me with this rezeki, with this good health, with this happiness, because with all that I pray that I could continue giving.
I need to stop here though there're a lot more that I want to blog about. But it is already 6.30 am. I need to get ready to go to work + get my boy ready to go to kindi. Until then, Assalamualaikum. I hope the people that I know, the people that I love will have a great day.
Oh yes, one of the bosses in my office is buying us breakfast today. To Peer, thank you. Semoga Allah murahkan rezeki and grant happiness in your life dunia and akhirat. I know a lot of people are wishing you for the same thing.
Signing off - nmn
Thursday, 29 September 2011
Another farewell.... and counting?
Another friend is leaving the department. Though not a close friend, but good enough to remember. Doesn't talk much, but very much liked. I will definitely miss his 'selamba' joke and will definitely miss his fun-loving character.
Naturally, someone would feel sad if their colleague is leaving, but this time around, everyone seems happy for him. In fact, people envy him for leaving. It is as if, leaving the department is victorious.
To Lim, I wish you all the best in your new job. Everyone is happy that you get what you wanted. I know a lot of people will miss your presence. I know I will too.
p/s: The number of farewells that I helped organise this year is unexpected. This is not healthy.
Signing off - nmn
Naturally, someone would feel sad if their colleague is leaving, but this time around, everyone seems happy for him. In fact, people envy him for leaving. It is as if, leaving the department is victorious.
To Lim, I wish you all the best in your new job. Everyone is happy that you get what you wanted. I know a lot of people will miss your presence. I know I will too.
p/s: The number of farewells that I helped organise this year is unexpected. This is not healthy.
Signing off - nmn
I Still Have a Job
I have not been in the job market for too long. Including my current job, I have only worked at 3 places. I enjoyed the last 2, and am still enjoying this one.
But past few months, hasn't been too good. My morale has been low, people are exhausted, frustrated... and for the very first time since I joined this place more than 2 years ago, people (including myself) are thinking and even talking about leaving , openly. Honestly, I am tired of this negativity that is going around this place. All these anger is killing me. I too... want a new job. I need some new air... fresh air.
An ex-colleague, when listening to us mumbling about how bad the situation is at work.... bluntly said that we should be greatful that we still have a job. Which I always forgot to do. That kind of hit me in the head and got me thinking, that yes, I still have a job. Why the hell am I complaining about how bad my day went at work, how underpaid I am, how the world is going against me, when there are thousands of people out there still struggling to find a job that could feed their family of 4 or 5 or 6 even!
Shame on me. And I must say, that my obsession with this whole job perfection has, to a certain extent made me a little selfish. More often than not, a little thought about others will help us realise how lucky we are.
Well, I still need new air. But until the day comes, I shall just hang on, and be greatful that I have this job.
Sign off - nmn
But past few months, hasn't been too good. My morale has been low, people are exhausted, frustrated... and for the very first time since I joined this place more than 2 years ago, people (including myself) are thinking and even talking about leaving , openly. Honestly, I am tired of this negativity that is going around this place. All these anger is killing me. I too... want a new job. I need some new air... fresh air.
An ex-colleague, when listening to us mumbling about how bad the situation is at work.... bluntly said that we should be greatful that we still have a job. Which I always forgot to do. That kind of hit me in the head and got me thinking, that yes, I still have a job. Why the hell am I complaining about how bad my day went at work, how underpaid I am, how the world is going against me, when there are thousands of people out there still struggling to find a job that could feed their family of 4 or 5 or 6 even!
Shame on me. And I must say, that my obsession with this whole job perfection has, to a certain extent made me a little selfish. More often than not, a little thought about others will help us realise how lucky we are.
Well, I still need new air. But until the day comes, I shall just hang on, and be greatful that I have this job.
Sign off - nmn
Wednesday, 28 September 2011
My Very First Blog - My First Blogging Experience - My Very First Posting
I have read countless blogs, have commented on many, enjoyed reading other people's blogs and even followed some (prominent) people's blogs. Never have i ever imagined to have my own. But I guess work-life balance went a little off-balanced past few months, and I was... in fact still am feeling stressed out about a lot of things, so i decided to start my own blog. It's like a 'dear diary' kind of feeling where I can just express everything - my happiness, my frustrations, my opinions, my feelings about whatever....
Honestly, i have no clue of how long I will stay blogging......but what I know now is, writing a blog isn't such a difficult task. Till we meet again in my next posting. It's almost 12 am and I need to get myself some sleep to be at work by 8 plus tomorrow.
Good Night & Assalamualaikum
Honestly, i have no clue of how long I will stay blogging......but what I know now is, writing a blog isn't such a difficult task. Till we meet again in my next posting. It's almost 12 am and I need to get myself some sleep to be at work by 8 plus tomorrow.
Good Night & Assalamualaikum
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